We both seem to have a bit in common at the mo' hun; both going through a lot of painful crap. Thanks for the link to the song; love Nickelback, and haven't heard that one before. more…
That's good advice. I do struggle sometimes, but then a voice in the back of my head, says the same thing, that you are saying; "don't slip into hate".
Thank you for the hugs and for 'getting' it. That helps. And you're right. "Hot house" is a good description, for what it's like.
Reading that, it's all so familiar. The feelings not the events. Can I suggest something? (I will anyway :oops: )
Try not to slip into the 'utterly hating her' feeling. In the end it can be far more painful. The guilt can be overwhelming, I think it's part of the lop-sided emotions that we are hot-housed in. I di more…
Thank you, yes, I bloomin have to make it through. I can't stand this. Some days are worse than others, but there are times, when I feel like just walking out. There's just nowhere to go.
Mothers...so much to answer for...
I know where you're at.
You can break free...even when you're still there...just don't play the game.
Thinking of you.
Jxx more…
I know just what you mean, took me years to break free, but with the right help I did, you can too.
The good thing is you are trying to get on with your life and to fight against the problems you face, you are doing something.
Hugs xxxx more…
Just wanted to wish you luck and found this that may help you. Remember we need some sugar that is found naturally in food, not the extras we add:)
Cutting out all sugar is very difficult to do – and more or less impossible to stick to. There are naturally occurring sugars in lots of foods, including fruit and veg, and you don't need more…
I was told that eating complex carbohydrates helps. A honey sandwich or something similar. It gives you a sweetness and fill, without the sugar dip afterwards. Keeps you going for a bit longer. Frozen grapes are an excellent snack too.
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In response to: "This sinking ship" 349 days old
by faffajane Pro
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In response to: "This sinking ship" 400 days old
by rowtheboat [Member]
I hope you can find the space and privacy you need to focus on you. This is your life now - you're reclaiming it from her, bit by bit. more…
In response to: "This sinking ship" 413 days old
by Doralene [Member]
We both seem to have a bit in common at the mo' hun; both going through a lot of painful crap. Thanks for the link to the song; love Nickelback, and haven't heard that one before. more…
In response to: "This sinking ship" 413 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]
You are getting stronger and that's great. Hugs more…
In response to: "This sinking ship" 413 days old
by tonsofme [Member]
That's good advice. I do struggle sometimes, but then a voice in the back of my head, says the same thing, that you are saying; "don't slip into hate".
Thank you for the hugs and for 'getting' it. That helps. And you're right. "Hot house" is a good description, for what it's like.
Appreciate the hugs a lot. :-)
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In response to: "This sinking ship" 414 days old
by subville [Member]
Hiya :D
Reading that, it's all so familiar. The feelings not the events. Can I suggest something? (I will anyway :oops: )
Try not to slip into the 'utterly hating her' feeling. In the end it can be far more painful. The guilt can be overwhelming, I think it's part of the lop-sided emotions that we are hot-housed in. I di more…
In response to: "Ups and downs, lately" 414 days old
by tonsofme [Member]
Thank you. That is very supportive, appreciated, and I do love to write, so that's also a welcome praise.
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In response to: "Ups and downs, lately" 414 days old
by tonsofme [Member]
Thank you, yes, I bloomin have to make it through. I can't stand this. Some days are worse than others, but there are times, when I feel like just walking out. There's just nowhere to go.
Thank you for understanding.
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In response to: "Ups and downs, lately" 414 days old
by tonsofme [Member]
Thank you, Missy :-)
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In response to: "Ups and downs, lately" 416 days old
by rowtheboat [Member]
It sounds to me that you should never feel guilty about anything connected to your mum. Ever again.
Incidently, you've got a real talent for writing.
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In response to: "Ups and downs, lately" 419 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]
I had a relationship like that with my mum. We are estranged and have been for most of my life. I doubt I will ever see her again.
Hang in there hunny, you are on a journey of self-discovery and will make it through to the other side.
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In response to: "Ups and downs, lately" 419 days old
by MissyMouse [Member]
Welcome back!
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In response to: "Ups and downs, lately" 419 days old
by tonsofme [Member]
Thank you for that :-) more…
In response to: "Ups and downs, lately" 419 days old
by tonsofme [Member]
Thank you :-) more…
In response to: "Ups and downs, lately" 420 days old
by subville [Member]
I like your ponderings and self-discovery. It's so encouraging. xxx more…
In response to: "Ups and downs, lately" 420 days old
by la_spice [Member]
It's good to see that you're making some progress :) more…
In response to: "She says everyone hates me" 423 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]
Mothers...so much to answer for...
I know where you're at.
You can break free...even when you're still there...just don't play the game.
Thinking of you.
Jxx more…
In response to: "Still here" 425 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]
Ta. See you soon. xx more…
In response to: "How to leave her" 427 days old
by faffajane Pro
I know just what you mean, took me years to break free, but with the right help I did, you can too.
The good thing is you are trying to get on with your life and to fight against the problems you face, you are doing something.
Hugs xxxx more…
In response to: "Anxiety and Absentmindedness" 427 days old
by faffajane Pro
Just wanted to wish you luck and found this that may help you. Remember we need some sugar that is found naturally in food, not the extras we add:)
Cutting out all sugar is very difficult to do – and more or less impossible to stick to. There are naturally occurring sugars in lots of foods, including fruit and veg, and you don't need more…
In response to: "Anxiety and Absentmindedness" 428 days old
by MissyMouse [Member]
Keep your positiveness going....it sounds like it's working for you :) more…
In response to: "Anxiety and Absentmindedness" 429 days old
by subville [Member]
I was told that eating complex carbohydrates helps. A honey sandwich or something similar. It gives you a sweetness and fill, without the sugar dip afterwards. Keeps you going for a bit longer. Frozen grapes are an excellent snack too.
You sound motivated :yes: well done xxxx more…
In response to: "Anxiety and Absentmindedness" 429 days old
by Juzzzy [Member]
Good. You're thinking cognitively.
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In response to: "Anxiety and Absentmindedness" 429 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]
One day at a time..x more…
In response to: "How to leave her" 429 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]
The good news is that you know your challenges and can now work towards changing your present behaviors. x more…
In response to: "Dominating areas and things" 429 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]
(((hugs))) more…
In response to: "PS: I am really a nice person - honest!" 429 days old
by deleted user [Visitor]
You are far from heartless but seem to be a lovely person who has reached the end of her tether and will no longer tolerate abuse. xx more…
In response to: "Anxiety and Absentmindedness" 429 days old
by nultygoestopartick [Member]
When you are doing these things gently sing The Hucklebuck You will feel a lot better. more…
In response to: "PS: I am really a nice person - honest!" 429 days old
by tonsofme [Member]
Thank you! Much appreciated. *red ears*
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In response to: "How to leave her" 429 days old
by tonsofme [Member]
Thank you very much. I appreciate it. It helps a lot to have people understand, and even relate. Blogging here has been very helpful. more…